2nd part of Life

真的无聊！又是到last minute才约朋友出去。
在下午4 点钟开始call朋友们，看谁有好节目，但是call来call去都是那几个，才知道原来我生活圈子那么小！应该是我挑剔吧，不然阿猫阿狗的party也可以去啊！在没有什么选择的情况下，还是跟那烦人的Gary出去了。哈哈哈哈！

其实我们并没有目的地，只是为了要出去走走。新年嘛，待在家里好像过不了自己。Gary的第一个意见是去Selangor Mansion，一栋很旧的组屋。他觉得那里的感觉很好，可以得到灵感去拍个短片什么的，我不明白那些“艺术家”的脑袋是什么构造的，但既然他开心那就去吧！后来他又改变了主意，说要去看戏，这对我来说是一个更好的去处。

我开车去接Gary，在路上我心不在焉，好像不知道要去那里是的，兜兜转转，走了些冤枉路才到The Curve。那里实在太多车了，附近的路旁都停满了车，兜了个圈才找到个非法停车位，不理三七二十一就park吧 。停车后还要走一段路才到The Curve，我们先去了Border，看些书再看些CD，不一会儿就被赶出来了，因为要打烊了。然后我们就朝着CineLeisure的方向走过去，一路上看见很多美眉，但还有更多的恐龙！

到了CineLeisure，我们先去逛逛街，刚好有大平卖，买了件运动衣，还算有点收获吧。逛着逛着就到了戏院的Box Office，哎呀，没有我们要看的《伤城》！没办法啰，去找点吃的吧。The Street里的店子多坐满了人，好像不用钱就可以吃是的。好不容易才找到个位子，店员才走过来说“Sorry, we are closed”。没关系，找吃我们最在行，穿多那条挤满人群的街道，到了Ikano。情况也不见好到哪里去，走到basement才找到了容身之所。一间快餐式的西餐厅，Gary很贪心的要了个Fish’n Chip和BomBom dog，我就要了个Cajun Chicken Salad。临走时还把那冰箱里仅存的两瓶Calsberg也要了，拿着啤酒就上去看烟花了。

烟花表演还算不错，时间也漫长的，仰着头去看还真的看到颈项有点累。人群都很作状的惊叹着那烟花的美，因为那实在没什么看头，可能只是为庆祝而庆祝吧.烟花放完了，人群也开始散了，我俩也不想再多留了。但是要离开这地方，也要用上一个半小时，算是意料中的事，所以塞着车，心情也很平复。

新年啰！！  就是换个年历那么简单吧？

被亲人遗弃，
被老板辞退，
被情人抛弃，
被朋友指责，
被别人欺负，

你都输得起吗？

无论你输不输得起，你还是要继续你的生活。
分别就是输不起的人会选择去报复或逃避，
而输得起的人就会去面对，去体会，去学习，去提升自己。

当事情发生时，很多人会是前者，会想着如何去报复或逃避。
但是当事情冷却了，就会慢慢的学着去面对。
我想这是一个解开心结的过程。

报复只不过是一个损人不利己的做法，你并不能得到什么，就算得到的都是短暂的。
你可能就永远背着一个心理上的包袱，过这下半辈子的生活，那岂不是自讨苦吃？
逃避可能让你现在的心好过一点，但每当再一次面对的时候就会很不舒服。
你要永远逃避那件事或那个人吗？你要这事或人成为你以后的一个心理障碍吗？

当你分析了以上的做法，你都可以看到那些并不是长远的解决办法。

首先去面对，想象这件事情对你以后的生活会有怎样的影响，体会那种痛，心酸，愤怒，无奈，和一切负面的感觉，让它们一涌而出，可以痛哭一场，可以找人倾诉。然后就是从这事情中学习，相信无论错的是不是你，你都可以从中领悟到些道理。想一想为什么自己那么苯，那么无能，那么失策，那么软弱，当得到了答案就好好提升自己在那一方面的能力。

P/S：我承认自己并不是个输得起的人，就算是在写这张贴的时候，我也有意避开一些话题或人物，但是我现在会慢慢的面对和体会，接下来就是学习与提升自己了。

马季（1934-2006），原名马树槐，中国相声演员，出生于北京，祖籍天津宝坻。
1951开始成为业余相声演员，五年后跻身专业行列，师承侯宝林。
他不但是一位很好的相声演员，他也是一位不遗余力去推广相声表演的大师级人马，
所以得以美誉——中国相声泰斗！

我在小学时期就开始听相声，那时的相声录音都在卡带里，
音质差而且他们的腔调也听不习惯，有的还穿插很多的京剧和各种地方剧的表演，
所以每次都要听上好多遍才能听懂，也有些真的听不懂。

还记得当时那些卡带都是我舅舅借我听的，
演员都是比马季早一辈的人物，例如侯宝林、刘宝瑞、郭全宝、郭启儒。
后来的相声卡带都自己买了，一个卖四五块钱。
商店里卖的都是马季的相声，因为那时他太红了。

到了高中就很少听相声了，偶尔听见学校里华文协会相声组的表演，
觉得比起那些我曾听过的中国相声差太远了，所以那兴趣更低了。

前些年，在马来西亚的电视节目上看见马季的访问，
都觉得这位开心的老人家还很有魅力，也感觉得到他那股热诚。

想不到今天他已经离开了我们。

有谁在看我这张贴之前就认识这位中国相声泰斗呢？

更多连接

马季 - Wikipedia
马季 - 新浪网

It’s Christmas time! And today is the Boxing Day! Have you got the present you wish for? Or present from someone means special to you?

Christmas is mean for the religion, a special day to remember and celebrate. However, in those major cities in Asia, it is just another holiday for hang out and get together with friends. If you are in the retail and restaurant business, this is a great time to make some extra pennies.

As an ordinary Chinese guy living in the city of KL, did some last minutes planning for the Christmas Eve by calling up friends for a dinner and hang out. It is kind of different arrangement from the previous Christmas Eves, which was eventful and enjoyed all the time. Nevertheless, this is also a joyful night.

Let’s start with the dinner at a road side restaurant near Cempaka, KL serving Thai’s favors. Quite a famous place and it is crowded all time. Starters are Mango Salad and Yao Cha Guai serves with Kaya. Prawn Fried Rice, Seafood Tom Yam, Kang Kong with Belachan and Thai’s style Lala as main course. Nice food and nice price tag, nothing to shout about.

Bukit Bintang is the next destination. We go round the area in car and see teenagers loitering on the sidewalk. There isn’t any event or road closure for the night but the area is crowded and people are just hanging around. Soon we join the crowd and feel the environment after we parked our car nearby. Walking pass groups and groups of teenagers, the feeling is kind of strange because we are afraid of those can spray each of them holding on.

Walking across the road just to get our self out of the crazy crowd and drop by the Irish pub around the corner. 4 pints of Guinness Stout served with exchange of coupons in our hand. A little bit chitchat while some 80’s hits playing in the background, its kind a getaway from the hot and spiced up teenagers. After finish my cup plus those reminder in others, I’m kind of high!

The next destination is the driving range in Pandan Perdana, which open till 2.00am on Christmas Eve! By the way, how could a drunken person like me able swing the club? All I am waiting for is the next eating time at steven’s corner, what a spoilt ideas for me to take Fish ‘n Chips at around 1.00am at night!

It is approaching the milestone of life for a man while I was forced to take a break in relationship and career. Either a coincident or backed by reasons, people would pronounce it as the lower point of life. But from my viewing angle, I see it as the turning point of life. This is the point for you to look back of what you’ve done, what was your attitude towards life, what did you neglected and appreciated, etc.

Philosophy
It developed from the young age, grab and hold on the balancing point in anything and everything you do. Be it the physical movement of your body, the way you communicate with people, the approaches to solve a problem, your eating habits, etc. you tend to have conflict if it is out of balance. This is part of the Confucianism philosophy, even it is easy to say than do, but we have to practice it.
I realised that I lost my balance in life for the past few years.

Passion
When we do something with passion attached to it, the result can be tremendous! The creativity, focus, efficiency, energy and many more qualities within you will show on work you have done with passion. It is arguably that we can’t find the passion in everything we do, especially on job we do to earn a living. However, with full heartedly involvement and getting best result out of it, there is a passion. I believe passion is the main element for self satisfaction on things you do and result you obtained.
I’ve lost the passion, the burning flames in things I’ve done recently.

Goal
Do we set goal beyond our limitation? We don’t usually, because we aren’t somebody with extraordinary intelligent and wisdom. Albert Einstein, Isaac Newton and Thomas Edison are people who set their goal beyond their limitation and they achieved. You can follow their footsteps if you think you got those qualities within you and be prepare to sacrifice others.
Do we set goal that is unclear and unspecified? We do and always, unclear perimeters and unspecified boundaries give us space to alter the goal line at any given time.
I ask some people around me about what they want in life, answers I got are like “an ordinary life”, “I can do what I like to do”, etc. Yup, these can be considering as goals, goals that are fragile and without base.
Am I lack of confident to set a solid goal of life?

Taking a break in life at this moment is like spending time luxuriously. While everybody taking every second to pursue their goal, I am having my own sweet time to look back and think over something that wondering in a normal person’s mind. However, this break mustn’t take too long to affect the competitiveness and advancement in life. A pit stop in a Grand-Prix racing is a crucial point to get a good finishing, so do the break that I am taking now.

My colleague comes into the IT room after meeting the big boss. “I was terminated!” he tells everybody. A sudden silent then followed by the phone ring, it was the big boss calling me to go to his room. “We have decided to purchase an off-the-shelf software package; we don’t need the extra manpower for the internal software development anymore.” The big boss said to me.

It is neither a shock nor a bad news to me. It gives out clues through out the clash between my manager and the big boss. However I felt relieves and the burden suddenly flew away, it is kind of relaxed that I have had never experienced before. The only surprise to me is my colleague involved in this incident too, but it is also understandable because I and he were hired by the manager.

The manager, a fifty odd year old chartered accountant holding the post Senior Financial Manager took over the IT department early this year. Practicing his years of working attitude in MNC and corporate, and implement standards and procedures into this small little traditional china man business.

A good initiative with a bad implementation has ruined my hope to deliver my knowledge and professionalism to the company as a system analysis. Perhaps, hiring me is one of the bad steps taken too. Hahaha…

P/S: 1st post in english for my banana frenz…

棋盘中两方对弈，各方手持十六个棋，
各个棋有各自的特点，各个棋有各自的功效。
对弈时尔虞我诈，各出奇招，在所不惜，只为了最后胜利。

在职场上，老板们都喜欢下棋对弈，就算是越级挑战也是司空见惯。
你曾经沦为其中的一个棋吗？你会是棋盘中的小兵还是武士？
当己方处于弱势，无论你是不是重要的棋子，你都要准备作牺牲。

我们是活生生的人，有感情，有思想，但是为什么会沦为棋盘上的死物？
你能体会着无奈的感觉吗？你能感受那被放弃的绝望吗？
你会因为这而怀疑自己的能力吗？还是你只有认命？
说到最后，你是没有选择的，因为你已被踢出场了！
之后的事情，就是再找另一个棋盘跳进去。
或许你有资格，有勇气，去成为下棋的人呢？

祝福是一种信心的提升剂。
当我们说"祝你成功"，那代表我们在给与对方一种信心的提升，让对方对成功更有希望。
很多时候，我们都会习惯性的"祝你"什么什么的，
可能说的那方并不是诚心诚意，但是听的那方或多或少总是会高兴。

当一个人很希望得到祝福，那说明了他对一件事情的信心很低。
更在他开口要求别人给与他祝福的时候，他应该很清楚这事情成功的可能性了。
其实人们都不吝啬给与祝福，说句"祝你"什么什么的是多么容易，
那为什么我们有时候会得不到祝福呢？是不是我们做的不对？
是不是我们的做法不被认同？还是这事情本身就存在问题？

不同的人在这世界上都有各自扮演的角色，而且通常不只一个。
在不同的时间和情况下，同一个人会切换不同的角色，而这些角色都有不同的重要性。

人生的道路上；
小时候是父母的孩子，成家了就变成孩子的父母。
孩子是父母的宠儿，父母会把最好的给与孩子。
当孩子长大成家了，他也会把最好的给与他的孩子。
父母都爱说“老豆养仔，仔养仔”，有多少孩子会或能给与父母同样的爱护呢？

事业的道路上；
开始工作是老板的员工，创业了就是员工的老板。
员工是老板的生钱工具，老板会把一些东西教给员工。
当员工学会了，然后做了老板，他也会把东西教给他的员工。
员工都会说“东家吾打，打西家”，有多少员工会感谢老板教会他们东西？

感情的道路上;
爱上了是爱人的幸福，被爱了就是幸福的爱人。
被爱上了就是个宝贝，因为去爱的人会为这段感情付出所有。
当被爱的去爱上一个人，去爱的也会为这个人付出一切。
爱人们说“去爱是付出，被爱是幸福”，有多少被爱的人会珍惜那种付出？

其实这些例子发生在绝大部分人的身上，但有谁能真正的去回顾让他们成长，
教会他们，为他们付出的人呢？然而，大家都知道当各自的角色演完，
就必须转换相对的角色再继续演下去，去经历那相对的角色所经历过的。

终于，学人家写blog了！
是真地想让别人知道我心里想些什么， 还是人有我有的心态？
反正我的想法那么幼稚，那么肤浅，难登大雅之堂，就只有在这瞎说了。
不在理会别人的冷嘲热讽，这就是我的国度，你要么就来挑战吧！

今天开张大吉，请各位来做个朋友啦！

P/S: to my banana frens, sorry for the chinese-only posting. will try to translate them IF i got the time la.