What are you waiting for?
You are clear enough that you loved her. You are mature enough to handle the situation. You are experienced enough on this kind of mind-struggles. Then what kind of uncertainty that you worry about? GO AND LET HER KNOW!
I know you took some time shaking-off some old memories. I felt your suffer in handicapped condition. I understand maybe you have missed the timing, I foresee the consequences that you might lose a friend. But would you regret if you found out that things can be work out?
爱在暧昧不明时最美 ~ 吴淡如
Loves in doubtful and uncertainty are most Beautiful ~ a Chinese novel writer (translated by me)
I think you feel comfortable and enjoying this position. Are you influenced by this writer? They are creating an illusion without bringing much of realities into the picture. When two individual getting together, you need effort to work things out, you hold responsibility on the role you playing and the feeling is the backing power. No matter what, it comes in a package, take it or leave it.
so… What are you waiting for?
July 24th, 2007 at 1:35 am
ooh….. look so familiar is talking about you ah…. and ah fong…..or u are saying is me…??? hahahhhaha
July 24th, 2007 at 4:17 am
it is all depends on the reader of this article.
in Chinese: 对号入座
in Malay: Perasan
in English: … I dunno but this is what I get from Internet ~ be put in one’s right place.
July 25th, 2007 at 12:56 am
Hmmm , its seems correct but it never success on me ! :>
Now i understand, why somebody like to keep this in heart. Yup, not everyone can accept the final result which is loosing a fren !
At least i know the feeling now !
July 30th, 2007 at 7:07 pm
eh…so boring..so leave you some comment la cause you want ma..and some *cough* ***si *cough* people dare to say wise ppl will get the information else shallow people get the presentation..
Life only suck ( don think of naughty thing :P) if we let it be. Let the people learn as they go through this kind of phase and you should not force your mind into other people as this will show you a holier than thou person. Give advise and your opinion together with some support(mentally only..money?..here is the answer..friend teach one..*mahai*..don be stingy like faymeow la)..so shut up la faymeow..don’t be too fanatic about love as love is beautiful..so beautiful…
ok…just play play only.
Peace ..dude
Heloo…not everybody understand mandarin and hokkien or hakka la plus can read chinese word.
And this ***si people want to give lecture to people…hahahaha….ok..here is my comment ..
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Disease: Path of life
Symptom: Indecisive
The condition you mention is a phase where everyone will go through.
Observe,think and learn is the only thing you can do during this phase.
I still remember a phase where we are very young. When we saw cheebye(not chipai..There is a different la), we say “eeewh..so digusting” but after we grown out of the that phase, now we say ” aahh…”.
yeah yeah..faymeow no girlfriend ..yeah yeah
Here is a quote for you to rebuke.
“There is no absolute truth as they are only illusion”
Peace
July 31st, 2007 at 4:38 am
Yup, you right on “you should not force your mind into other”. But as you growth till this age, you should know that some kind of people really need a “kick” start. maybe right at their A$$ so they can feel it and do it. Of cause the “kick” mustn’t hurt and discouraging. Truth is in One self’s mind and by their own judging. is it an illusion? go ask that someone.
August 1st, 2007 at 4:36 am
The so call truth in one mind is based on his experience with the object/matters like someone who have not taste a durian before and hate it because of it smell.Once they taste it, They will get a new experience and they may love eat durian but if they still don’t like it, they already know that durian taste where they will not so repel durian as before.
About kicking ah..u ah…very people la ( fan yan)…Kick your own **s first before kicking other. Who give you right for doing the kicking as you also need us to kick you for you to move or initiate something..
Eh..if the “kick” not hurt or discourage…why the kick ah ?
Faymeow say thing like this no power la..:P..
Our so called truth change when there is some kind of revelation like gay or she male phenomenon. Please give a better rebuke
Look into the mirror and see your reflection first before you go say thing or kick people **s .
From pain, only lesson will be learn.
August 1st, 2007 at 5:59 am
I should put in the constraint on my saying. “The Moment” when one’s judged that is the truth they believe then it is the truth to him/her! Truth will not last forever as everything we know wouldn’t last forever, so “The Moment” is the Key point!
About the “kick”, do you need to be the yardstick in certain area before you can teach other about it? NO, Most sport coaches weren’t the champion but they can train champion! Do I need to be a thin guy before telling people how to slim down? Please keep in mind that Inspiration DO NOT ONLY comes from the Best in that area. it can be a total Outsider!
So I can kick somebody and wait for someone to kick me! muahahahahahaha
August 1st, 2007 at 8:47 pm
Good morning,
ok..now about the “kick”, shit/mahai :P…in your current situation, it is like short guy call other people short. 
No one will be convince by your advise 
You should only give advice on this matter if you have the experience or utmost at less willing to experience what you advise. Can you simply ask anybody or even the best, yourself ..eh let say to be a football coach ?
I thought we are debating on the quote “There is no absolute truth as they are only illusion” ?
Please understand this quote first before debate
The “coach” at least should have some basic knowledge on the sport, rule , strategy or play the games before. At least got some qualification first la on this matter(sport)…but where is your qualification on what you advise ? You advise people to go ahead..doing something they reluctant to do even though they scare of doing it - “tak poh” themself to do this love thingy.
OUTSIDER can give inspiration but limit by their own experience on this matter.
Inspiration mean give an input (A) to a guy where the input(A) + experience / knowledge(B) to create an output (C). Therefore inspire other people by doing what you advise first :D..any target?
The best in any field can inspire people more effective..don’t you agree?
Why cause they show result or proof on what they are doing..
Winning or achieve a certain level likes the best recognition in related field can be very inspire oh but the dedication or hardwork you do to achieve your target can be inspire as well.
Have you do such thing lately ?
Actually you have to be a fat guy then slim down to thin people. Only then you can teach people to slim down as you already go through the process. People will believe you more
(common sense la) 
:P 
:P 
Let talk about the future as well. Will you do what you preach ? 
For someone who have not “tak poh(what is the word in english ?)” himself should not even force other people to ” tak poh” themself.
Why willing ok cause they choose to do so..
It is like you want other people to do / live out your desire/ambition for you.
One word for you - “coward”
Afraid is ok but forcing other people to do something you afraid is not ok.
what about freewill ?
(unless they are willing do it for you)
There is a different oh..
Boring la…still blog about love…
Blog your love life la
hahahahaha
Sure more people will leave comment
Waiting your reply on this
August 2nd, 2007 at 3:22 am
Your comment alwiz sounds like “beating around the bushes”, it is long enuf to create confuses (is this ur main point?) maybe u can put it in simple, short and straightforward manner so that not only me but other ppl who read can understand what u trying to say!
If u must go through something b4 u can comment on others, that means u can only tell ppl how bad drug(dadah) can affect ur life after u have tried it? by this understanding, then who the hell of ppl out there alwiz pushing for antidadah?
“The ‘coach’ at least should have some basic knowledge on the sport, rule , strategy or play the games before.” — this quote is agreeable but from where the hell u “think” that I dun have that qualification, experience or the basic knowledge to comment on other ppl? who the hell u can judge me like that? maybe u can do a test and keep the result as an evidence b4 u sound at me!
And please dun use the word “force”, by which mean u found that i m forcing someone? maybe u found that my writing is a bit offensive, if yes then sorry. I can’t take care of everybody who read this article.
So far my main purpose is to give advice and suggestion, and so showing the possible circumstances. Do you need to bring out all ur experiences, understandings, knowledges or maybe ur philosophy b4 u give your ur fren an advice?
tok about “common sense”, use ur common sense to determine what kind of situation, who is that targeted audience and what other variables inside the picture that my message is RECEIVED and APPRECIATED! of coz u can’t, bcoz u know none of the factors, so u need not to prove anything here!
August 2nd, 2007 at 3:24 am
after this i found that my blog is so happening with 2 soh lou arguing nonsense!
and the length of my comment is far longer than my blog ;ost!
hahahahahahaha
August 2nd, 2007 at 10:32 am
All those long comment was made as to answer your comment on my previous comment and in a friendly environment but if you insist on point, here we go
1)Backup your advise with fact or proof to convince people.
2)Don’t influence people when they are making decision.
3)Let people learn.
I don’t know your so called factors in your advise but i assume your advise was meant for people to be brave and take initiative ?
Please mention in your blog if your blog was meant for certain kind of situation, selected targeted audience and
VARIABLES. This is to avoid me make a general assumption that you comment on general level. :). I don’t think to prove anything but my comment on your blog.
I can comment about you based on your logic as someone don’t neccessary need of all/any relevant knowledge/data to preach other people on what to do.
I can judge you because of your attitude in taking initiative and risk but you lecture people on the same matter. For this, you are a coward and a hypocrite.
Answer time..
“who the hell u can judge me like that?”
about the dadah case, there is a lot of information about the negative effect like stories from drug addict on how it destroy their life and etc. Same thing about love matter.
A lot of info and advise..Really a lot of info and advise.
Don’t “kick” people to do what you want or think is right to do. Ok ?
Taking from your comment,
Who the hell are you to “kick” people like that ?
Remember the time when we need to “kick” you when you have a target/girl to court ?
Why you take the initiative ?
What have you gain from that relationship ?
People life must let people to decide.
So…is the redang trip on ?
August 2nd, 2007 at 6:40 pm
dun lost ur focus. I will inform u if redang trip is on.
As my 1st reply to gary, this writing is meant for someone and those who “think” they belong to this category. I can comment and give advice/suggestion to someone based on my knowing, understanding and experience. as well u can comment, advice/suggest me, BUT u shouldn’t comment on my comment to other ppl, simply bcoz the receiver is NOT between u and me. u can make general assumption but this is not the situation.
What if someone comes in and tell u to back off, bcoz ur comment on me is not justified and misjudged? would u feel that someone is kind of bzbody to get involved?
I know u r tension and facing lotsa stress, but u shouldn’t simply release it on me. me as ur fren advice u to face ur own prob and solve it! dun do something unwillingly and after that sound at ppl. i can be ur listener on ur prob but not getting lecture by u.
1)Backup your advise with fact or proof to convince people.
-this writing is meant for those who can get the message and proceed, u can’t get it then sorry. I don’t need to give fact or proof just to convince someone like u.
2)Don’t influence people when they are making decision.
-what is the meaning of advice/suggestion? it gives option to someone to make decision, so to a certain extend, it does influence ppl.
3)Let people learn.
-did I stop someone from learning? learning with guidance proved more efficient!
August 2nd, 2007 at 9:29 pm
I am not lost my focus but just waiting the answer for the so called trip.
- “I can comment and give advice/suggestion to someone based on my knowing, understanding and experience. as well u can comment, advice/suggest me, BUT u shouldn’t comment on my comment to other ppl, simply bcoz the receiver is NOT between u and me”
-”As my 1st reply to gary, this writing is meant for someone and those who “think” they belong to this category.
u can make general assumption but this is not the situation.”
Did you see the contradiction ?
I will back off not because i fell that person is busybody but i will think that it may have offend him. Most likely this advise is between you and him and he is not comfortable with the comment. Hell..i will even apologize to him but i would not do so because the whole comment is to express my opnion relate with your so called advise.
Tension/stress on work and daily life, please let me know who don’t have. But i curious on what ground that make you think that i am releasing “it” on you ?
hahahahaha
Please prove that to me
1)Backup your advise with fact or proof to convince people.
-this writing is meant for those who can get the message and proceed, u can’t get it then sorry. I don’t need to give fact or proof just to convince someone like u.
– I really don’t understand why you need to proof or convince someone like me :P.
I give my comment on your advise which i think your advise is more “adviseable” if backup by fact/proof like your previous relationship make you may see something differently from other.
2)Don’t influence people when they are making decision.
-what is the meaning of advice/suggestion? it gives option to someone to make decision, so to a certain extend, it does influence ppl.
–Please read your advise first as it may not seem to what you think. You are “kicking” “Someone” to do “something”. Advise/suggestion provide some references for that “someone” to “think” and “do” what “he” want to do. Everything we do affect other in a certain extend :P.
(Grey area)
3)Let people learn.
-did I stop someone from learning? learning with guidance proved more efficient!
– Yes, you did if you “kick” people to do “something”. Learning with guidance is effective but you miss a point here. Basic Learning is by thinking (freewill) and your “advise” is prohibit this “someone” natural development. There are many other way than “kick”. Let “him” know what he want is the most important in this process.
You and I have different opnion on this love matter but to me, you are not what you preach. I am sad to say that i still think you are a coward and hypocrite.
You make assumption and never even try to verify whether it is true or not.For example “I know u r tension and facing lotsa stress, but u shouldn’t simply release it on me. me as ur fren advice u to face ur own prob and solve it!”
It is reckless and irresponsible. This also show you likeliness to make assumption and dislike people for saying/comment on what you don’t want to hear/see.
Ever heard of oppression ?
Now i am mad
If you think your “advise” is correct, it is your opnion. I am entitle to my opnion. I care and that why i put some comment. All you have to do is tell me that this advise is for someone with his certain special situation where normal rule does not apply here. Please don’t comment my advise as it is tailor made for his situation.
You never answer any of my question.
*Have you do such thing lately ?
*Remember the time when we need to “kick” you when you have a target/girl to court ?
*Why you take the initiative ?
*What have you gain from that relationship ?
HIGHLIGHT OF ALL COMMENT
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All my comment is to point out that i think you are the most less suitable person to give advise in asking someone to be brave and take initiative to pursue his partner as you are not such person yourself.Your advise highlight that you know what to do should you face this problem but will you do it ?
Not to your friends as we know your altitude in initiative and risk taking matter.
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Anyway, if you wish to help your friend, be sure to commit to help him whether in advise or support. Don’t forsake him in half way.
*Personal remark to anthony foo*
The reason i quote about the truth is that i want you to know that people own truth form who they are and they may change overtime. Please remember them as your friend. Look beyond pride and prejudice and accept them as they are now.
Know their heart and look into the mirror first before you think that they are arrogant and alway assume themself is alway right.
There is no absolute truth as there are only illusion.
Best regard and good health.
Signing out - Hoo
August 2nd, 2007 at 11:29 pm
pls refer to each paragraphs on ur comment, i dun wan to quote it and make my comment so long and confusing!
Nope i din see any contradiction there, maybe u can point it out?
that somebody i mentioned wasn’t the targeted audience, he/she can be anybody.
nothing to prove but just that u seems pushing me to the corner on the matters that totally not related to u. r u kind of “pik chik”.
1)Backup your advise with fact or proof to convince people. - but after that u say i dun need to convince u. then who is that “people”? the ‘receiver’?
2)Don’t influence people when they are making decision. Don’t influence means NO COMMENT! bcoz u said “Everything we do affect other in a certain extend” am i getting ur point?
3)Let people learn. - please understand the word “LEARN” either by “kicking” or any other way, that someone will learn something! u stop and look ard, u might learn something,as well as u move.
U r giving me oppression! assumption that has been verified is not call “ASSUMPTION” anymore, my assumption was based on ur image in my mind. assumption create conflicts but who can stop someone to make assumption? A logic and rational person would make assumption based on something. and i make that assumption based on what u told me previously! nvm if u forgotten what u told me.
pls check back on u very 1st comment in here. If u dun wan me to comment on ur advice then pls do it urself! to recap, u said “so shut up la faymeow” (9th line count from bottom), asking me to shut up while i m giving advice is totally reckless!
Do i have my right on my privacy? Do i have to answer ur question (by law) in this public area (even though very less ppl read but still this is a public domain)
“will you do it ?” is a very good question. from this i can “assume” that u “assumed” me will not take the action. so where ur assumption comes from? same as what i ‘assume’ in my previous comment. As I understand from the beginning, u simply wanna stop me from commenting on this issue. “so shut up la faymeow”.
for the last part on personal remark, i think u and gary should act on what u had just said. but anyway no normal human can look beyond pride and prejudice, bcoz everybody is bound to their own thinking and perspective when comment on anything.
There is no absolute truth as there are only illusion. sound very general but i dun agree as there are absolute truth on somebody’s mind. and how they perceive the meaning of truth!
August 10th, 2007 at 7:21 pm
aiyo, talk so long, also dunno wanna continue to read or not?? just rem one thing, if it is to be, it is up to me!! that’s all about life… to me at least