It’s time……
Sunday, August 26th, 2007"I wanna get marry"
"oh, Congrat! Who is the lucky one?"
"wanting u to intro 1 lo…"
"ha? then why u said wanna get marry?"
"it’s time……"
Any of you out there takes time as the main and
major criteria to get marry? It sound ridicules to me, as from my
understanding, it should be built from love, trust, responsibility and many
more. You looking for marriage while you haven’t found the right person is
something like getting a car before you actually taking the driving lesson. Time
can be one of the element but I don’t think setting a deadline for it is
anyway sensible.
Putting a deadline on when to get marry sounds like you
are running a project where milestone has to be achieve and the deadline must
be meet. I don’t mean that is not good, but it is a bit tied up with
limitations or constraints. Life should be something wonderful and
unpredictable and you will have a lot of surprises along the way.
I came across some friends who are married and when they
have been asked about “why you get marry?” the answer I normally get is “it’s
time……” or “when you reach that stage, you will know.” So from these
conversations, the idea I got is they don’t really know why or they just
confused and follow what normal people do. It is kind of sad do you think?
A marriage certificate is what? It is just a contract that
protect both parties, when something bad happen, one will have to compensate
the other party. This is a typical capitalism ways of doing things. We take a
step further, when your partner break the rules on the marriage act, he/she
actually breaking your heart too, and what are those compensations can do to
mend you broken heart?
Back to “it’s time……” take these example and see;
“Why you wanna eat?” – “It’s time……”
“Why you wanna buy a house?” – “It’s time……”
“Why you wanna change a job?” – “It’s time……”
Do you found these answers make more sense?
“Why you wanna eat?” – “because I am hungry”
“Why you wanna buy a house?” – “because my family is
expanding”
“Why you wanna change a job?” – “because I wanna meet new
people, take new challenges or change new environment”
What I would like to highlight here is, when we going make a
decision, we should go to the root of the issue. Not simply think that it’s
time to do so, or everybody doing so at this point of life and you just follow.
Everyone have their own agenda in life, when you are making some big decision,
please be sure that you are addressing the root of the problem and bare the
consequences and responsibility.
